Its the new year, 1:47am on my clock, and here I am thinking about what has gone through with my life. What have I achieved and overcame over the past year? What have I failed at and what have I did not try again to do over failure?

But how does one really measure one's success? We have three aspects in our lives which we measure ourselves. We check our career, lovelife and physical health. Ofcourse, for some people it may be more, adding spiritual life and social status. For singles like me, at 27 years old, we are in our mid-life crisis in which we begin to seriously check if we have achieved what we have written in our school essays, "Who Am I 10 years after?". It may be a small question 10 years ago, but it becomes a big question today.

In career, am I already a supervisor or a manager? Do I work for something I like? Do I have healthy working relationships with my colleagues and suppliers? Do my boss like me and do I likely to have a promotion? At times, when we don't get what we want by 27, we decide that if we don't change our career now, we might ruin our career life forever.

When it comes to our lovelife, am I in a stable relationship that will lead to marriage? Am I ready to live through my whole life with the partner I'm with today? Do I think my partner think of me the same as his/her forever one? If we know that it is impossible to create a family with the one we're with, we begin to think that we should leave the relationship.Otherwise, most of us have been in the relationship for so long that we think an alternative to let ourselves stay, mold the person we're with or just accept him/her for who he/she is.

Lastly, we look at ourselves in the mirror and check if we like what we see. Some get joyous thinking that a little fat or a moustache will likely make them look more grown up. For women, we still dream that slender 36-24-36 body we longed for since we're 12 years old. Have we maintained or finally achieved the ideal body type we've always wanted? Does the lines in our face illustrate lines of happiness or sadness? I have recently discovered that we mostly recognize a person's age through one's eyes. Not exactly the human body age, but the age of experience the person has gone through. If only I can take pictures of people's eyes and show you how easy it is to see if one is in difficult times but is trying to be gay despite of it. Or if someone's eyes show a sign of innocence and carefreeness of what life may serve her.


These three factors may be irrelevant for some people when measuring success. Some will just measure it by the feeling they have when New Year strikes the clock. Do you feel happiness when you welcome the New Year? Or do you feel like you're fearing the road ahead? Do you avoid the celebration and prevent yourself from seeing the grandeus fireworks? Whatever you feel about the New Year today, set it aside and just be thankful that you are still alive despite you being successful or not last year. Everyday has its ups and downs, and God is always giving us a another day to start anew. It may seem daunting if you haven't achieved the things you wanted for 2012, but it is always not too late to try again in 2013. Happy New Year guys :)